4 Types of People You Need As Friends
Making friends as an adult can be hard to do, that's one of the things I wish I knew before I got older. As an adult, I have don't want to be friends with just anybody I meet. It's almost like I have a criteria that needs to be match with each and every person that I encounter. It's sad that as adults we tend to weigh our pros and cons of everyone we meet, but Essence Magazine recently published a great article about the 4 types of people you need in your circle of friends:
Most of us seem to have that one friend who knows everyone. Although not everyone that your friend knows will be your friend, however, the fact that he/she has a large friend base, you are bound to be connected to someone that can help you in some way. I think of a connector as someone with a large network in your particular industry or field of interest. Since graduating from an extremely well-known university, I now have a large network of classmates that can serve as connectors to different industries.
2. Accountability Partner
Accountability happens to be a culprit of not achieving goals. How often do you find yourself putting off goal after goal because you don't have the time or you're simply dedicating your time to useless things? An accountability partner helps you stay on track and get things done. This is different from being a mentor. An accountability partner is there for support or to cheer you on rather than give you certain knowledge in an area of expertise. However, you can certainly have a mentor who acts as an accountability partner and vice versa.
This friend is the bulldog you unleash when you have to make serious financial decisions and get the most of your money. For example, if I was to buy a car I would bring my brother or fiance with me to negotiate deals. Not because they're men, but because they're better at negotiating than me. Your negotiating friend can be male or female, as long as they have your back when it comes to making deals either lowering a price or asking for more money, etc.
This is different from a mentor and even a connector. A sponsor doesn't mean providing you monetary support, according to Essence it means putting his or her reputation on the line in order to make something happen for you. Sponsorship also means that that person is looking for a return. This return could be a stronger relationship or more connections. Think of a sponsor as an agent and you are the pro basketball player.