5 Steps To Becoming Successful In Life
We all want to succeed in some form or fashion. But regardless of what that success looks like you will need to take certain steps to get there. I recently talk about defining success on the 500 Days of Growth podcast, a weekly podcast to help other bloggers, creatives, and entrepreneurs make things happen, live the life they want to live, and become who they want to be.
What success looks like for one person, it may be different for someone else, and that's okay. You define what success is or means for you, but when it comes down to making things happen and actually becoming successful there are 5 steps that you must take in order to make it happen. Let's talk about each step.
1. Change is Required, It's Non Negotiable
Regardless of the goal you want to reach, the live you really want to live and create for yourself, you must be comfortable with change. You can't expect to wake up past 9AM on the weekends because it's your day off, and think that you'll be able to own/run your own business. Change is needed in order for you to do what you want to do.
I get it, though. You see other people doing things for themselves and they seem to be growing, but the grass isn't always greener on the other side. What you see may have been years or months in the making. However, if you really want to get somewhere in life and become a success you need to change your lifestyle.
What do I mean by change?
Align your lifestyle with what is needed to get where you need to be. If starting a business online or a traditional shop/boutique then you need to start thinking and living like a business owner. If you want to sell through your blog the you need to start thinking as a freelancer now.
Think and live your success into existence. You can't wait until you have the business to start thinking like a business owner. - BecomingNatasha
In order for me to become an author and entrepreneur, I needed to change the time that I woke up in the morning. I used to wake up 1.5 hours before I had to be at work, of course rushing and end up not having time to eat breakfast or maybe even late clocking into work. But now I'm up at 5:30 AM/6:00AM to practice writing in my journal and getting my day started before I go into work. I didn't make this change because someone told me, I had to make the change because I want to get somewhere. The same goes for you: what are you willing to change to get where you need to be?
2. Be specific
I can't tell you how many times people have said to me that they wanted to start a business. Whenever someone says that I give them a very blank stare and answer with "okay". I only do this because it eats at me inside that people aren't specific with what they want, especially if he/she wants to make money or "help people". How can you help people if you're aren't specific in what you want to do for them?
Being specific with your goals, target, end point, etc, shows people that you know who you are and what you are here to do. It doesn't matter if you're starting a blog or starting a business you have to be specific in who you want to target, speak to, help, etc.
Want to know why you're not accomplishing your goals...you're not specific about them - Becoming Natasha
Getting specific helps you figure out what target to reach and what your ultimate goal is. I love to write, but my ultimate goal is not to just write everyday, it's to provide African American millennials with fictional literature that consists of Black characters but with real life African American issues, problems, etc, establishing stronger connection between African Americans and literature. That is a specific goal and it will help guide me in life because everything I do will be tested up against whether it helps me get closer to that goal or if it has no relevancy.
3. Stop assuming and starting getting the facts
The biggest issue that people have when starting a blog or business or service is that they don't know what is needed for startup and maintaining that blog/business/service. For traditional business owners simply selling a product to people isn't all you have to do. You need to know how much money is needed for you to buy the necessary material, get the product made, how much you need to sell it for to create a profit, and most importantly what is needed to stay in business legally.
As for online business owners and bloggers, less is required for startup and maintaining things, but you should still know what that includes. As a blogger, I'm not just signing up for some free website, unless I want to. But if I am taking my blog seriously, I need to know what platform is best for what I am trying to do online, how much is needed to pay and keep my blog online, what does it cost to send and receive automated emails via services like MailChimp, how much it costs for software like Photoshop and Lightroom, of course how much a decent camera costs to take pictures, etc.
When it comes down to it, regardless of what you want to do in life, you need to stop assuming you know something and start finding out the facts. Oprah knew the facts before she started her OWN media company. Chris Gardner knew the facts to become a stock broker, and Mark Zuckerberg knew the facts to start his own social media platform. Know your facts, don't assume.
4. Take action
The sad truth is that most people will always plan what it is they wish to do, but they will fail to actually make their plans a reality. The reason being could be from fear of failure and/or wanting to do things as perfectly as possible. If you happen to be one of those people who feel either way, understand that success comes in failure. If Steve Jobs stopped at the first iMac we wouldn't know Apple as we do today. If Tyler Perry stopped at his first play he wouldn't have created the Madea series and established his own production company and studio. Success will come overtime, but it takes action to make it happen.
As for waiting until the perfect time, that time will never come. There is no perfect time to go into business or to start your blog, the perfect time is right now.
5. Stay humble
As I stated before success will come over time, but you have to humble yourself and keep pushing. Don't throw in the towel because you couldn't get people to sign up for your email list within the last month. Figure out why that is happening and make the necessary changes. Don't get discouraged when you promoted your first ebook and it sold to crickets.
I leave you with this:
Whatever path you choose to take to get where you want to be, it will never be a straight path to success. In fact, it won't be flowers with you "easing down the road", instead you'll have to take right/left turns, climb up and down ladders, stop to redirect your path, walk, run, and at some points crawl, just keep going.