7 Steps To Becoming The Person You Really Want To Be

In this Internet age and social media world, it's hard to just be you. You might follow so many people on social and assume that they are living "good" lives and have their ish together but in reality, it's the opposite. Social media is literally a highlight reel, only showing you a limited version of an entire picture that you never get to actually see. What this means is that people can be whoever they want to be. 

When I started BN (Becoming Natasha) I kept using my Instagram to show only branded images, nothing behind the scenes aka my personal life, and every picture had to be staged through a flat lay. It got to the point that I felt I couldn't share anything personal because I had branded my Instagram to only represent Becoming Natasha and not Natasha of Becoming Natasha. 

In order for me to help influence and inspire people to become the best versions of themselves, I have to show people who I am as a mom, a soon to be wife, blogger and inspiring entrepreneur and not the perfect version of myself. And today, I'm sharing 7 steps to help you actually become the person you really want to be.

Create a vision board

Use Pinterest or even old magazines but definitely create the image or vision of what you want your life to be. Constantly refer back this board when you feel lost & confused about the next step to take in life OR when you simply just need a reminder to keep going and keep pushing.

Use your voice

The best way to use your voice is to open your mouth. Don't be afraid to tell your story to anyone that you can influence and inspire it with. Your story is about your past, present, and where you're headed (future) and even though you may not feel like it's worthy, your story needs to be told. Someone needs help overcoming the same challenges you once faced. 

Get to know your values and beliefs - what do you stand for?

The best way to get to know yourself and who you want to be is asking yourself what it is you stand for. You've heard the phrase before, stand for something or fall for anything. Figure out what's most important you, what you believe in and don't. Becoming yourself means being true and honest with yourself.

Surround yourself with people similar to you

They say you are the company you keep, which means whoever it is you want to become you have to surround yourself with what that looks like. Surround yourself with people who represent what you believe in and value. These are the people who understand you and what you have going on, they will be your support team and contribute to your success.

Practice your talents and gifts

Lately, I’ve been doing my best to read more books than the years prior. Since graduating from college and getting a degree in English, reading books were pushed to the end of any to-do list I have. However, I’ve made it a goal to read 12 books this year, one for every month. One book I’ve been reading is “Outliers” by Malcolm Gladwell who talks about 10,000 hours. According to Gladwell, it takes 10,000 hours to perfect your talents and gifts. 10,000 equates to 8 + years of practice. Does that mean spend 8 years practicing becoming who you want to be? Yes. In your mind, you might want to arrive earlier but in all honesty, things take time.  

Set goals

What does goals have to do with becoming who you want to be? Simple, goals challenge you. Challenge yourself to work on your self-care more, challenge yourself to talking to new people, challenge yourself to actually showing up and doing the important work in your life aka working on your dreams. The more you challenge yourself and actually get through that challenge, you start to actually see change happen in your life.

Occasionally refer back to your past

The best way to tell if you're moving forward in life is to look back at where you came from. So many times we don't give ourselves more credit than we deserve. It's easy to think you're stuck in life when it feels like people around you are doing better or you're constantly finding yourself back in similar situations but in reality, you're doing better than you think. Take the time to reflect on yourself a year ago, even 6 months ago. If you think you haven't changed then ask yourself - where is it that you want to be in 6 months, 1 year, 2 years? How do you want to feel? What do you want to be doing? What steps can you take today? 


I created the Grow To Know Yourself Manual to help you get clear on who it is you want to become & what you want your life to stand for, and how you can influence + inspire other people to do the same. This manual is for those who:

  • have an idea of what they want there life to be like, but no idea how to get there.
  • feel lost & confused and want to start over
  • know they have something to offer but do know how to get people to recognize their greatness

If this is you, then you need this manual.

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