How To Be Bold and Brave Enough To Go After What You Want
I get it, I really do. Going after your goals is scary and overwhelming. I get it because I'm guilty of going through this myself. Each and every time I log into Squarespace (the platform I use to host the website) I think about what I am doing with Becoming Natasha and where I want to take it. Even when I have conversations with my fiance about what I do online, I get this funny feeling in my stomach and I think about the fact that I am "trying" to make something happen in my life through my blog.
But going after what you want shouldn't make you run away from it. It should make you keep moving forward.
You're probably someone working at a job you don't like, working with people you can't stand to work with, dealing with issues that you really don't care about, etc and you're thinking about leaving your job to go the entrepreneur route or just find something else that will make you happy. And the whole time you're going through the motion and thinking, if I leave this job how will I pay my bills? I still need to eat and I'm already broke.
These are the same questions that I ask myself all the time when I decide to dedicate more time to Becoming Natasha; what if this becomes my primary income? will I be able to cover my bills? still keep food in the fridge? still pay my car payments on time? etc.
I'm here to tell you that like you, I'm overwhelmed, but through it, I'm still pushing forward. Why? I already know what's like to not pay a bill or push the payment date back. I already know what it's like to not have enough on my debit card to get lunch. I already know what's like to not have enough for rent and need help. But what I don't know is how my life could/would be going full time as an entrepreneur or going after what I really want, and I'm curious to find out.
So if you have enough courage to continue going after what you want, you need to do these 4 things:
1. Stop Listening To People Who Don't Matter
In my last post, I told you how to stop asking for permission. If you haven't read it, I'm telling you now: stop asking for permission and in fact, stop listening to people who don't matter. If you have people in your corner telling you to not going after what you want, figure out why. Are they people who would rather wait around for their dreams to happen? Do they even want you to succeed? What I am saying doesn't mean that people are jealous, but what I mean is do they truly want to see you succeed or are they simply lazy and don't want others to "make" it before them?
People who matter will not mind that you are going after what you want, in fact, they will support you in many ways; and you don't need a lot of people in your circle of friends for support. 3-4 people is good enough for when you're going after you biggest goals in life.
If you don't have people in your corner reach out to people who you know will truly help you get where you want to be.
2. Get Clear On What You Want To Do
Clarity equates to direction and what this means is when you have a general idea of what target you want to reach, you will then learn the steps needed to get there. Clarity just means going deeper into why you're doing what you're doing. One way to get clear on your goals is to ask yourself, "why is this so important to me?" Another question to ask is "where do I ultimately want to be in life? The more deeper questions you ask, the more clear you become on what you want to do and who you want to target.
3. Position Yourself
Positioning yourself is all about preparing yourself to take a next step. What is require of you to go the next level? What specific resources do you need? Who do you need in your corner? The more you position yourself the more you have a better chance of reaching your goals. Positioning yourself is all about strategy and how you're going to go to the next level and go after what you want.
4. Understand that "failure" will happen
I think a huge setback for most people is not getting back up after they have failed. Most people that I've seen, including myself, going after something important to them have seemed to stop because they think they've failed. Here's the problem: we confuse not having things go our way as failure. I am guilty of this! I challenged myself, especially last year to do more video posts via Facebook LIVE and what started out as me being consisted ended up in me being disappointed for not getting more followers to my Facebook page and blog, so naturally I felt that I failed at what I had set out to do. There is a difference between naturally failing at something vs something not going the way you wanted it to and labeling it as "failure". Failure has nothing to do with specific experiences. Failure is apart of life period, which means that everyone will fail at some point their life.