How To Give and Receive Good Advice
Advice comes and goes, but when we give advice or get it from other people with either do one or two things: take it in or ignore it altogether. When it comes down to it advice can be good or bad, not to be confused with the hard truth because that's actually good advice given in a tough way.
But whenever you're giving advice or receiving it, you got to decipher whether it advice is needed or not and if you are the best person to give out advice. A lot of time we feel that what we believe and know is good for someone else when in fact, it may not be. So today, I'm talking to you about how to give and receive good advice.
Decipher Advice vs Venting
When it comes to giving or receiving advice you need to make sure that you either want it or you simply want to vent about something that's been bothering you and vice versa. If you're talking to someone and they are telling you how they feel about something that's been on their mind or what they are going through you first need to be sure that they either want advice from you or if they simply need a listening ear. A lot of times we feel when people are coming to us about an issue that they are only wanting advice from us when in fact they just need someone to talk to.
How do you know when it's advice or venting?
If someone comes up to you to ask you for your opinion or help that's when you can give out advice and support, but if someone is coming to you and just start rambling on about something, just listen to them and when, only when they seem to be wanting your advice that's when you give it. Just because you seem to give pretty good advice doesn't mean that you need to go around as a life coach, which leads me to my second point.
Who is giving the advice?
Not everyone gives good advice and some times people want to "feel" that they are helping others but may have worse problems themselves. Advice is something that should be taken seriously whether you are receiving it or giving it. Not everyone is able to give good, decent, and helpful advice, like your Aunt whose been divorced once and now thinks that anybody getting married is making a mistake or your sister who has been jealous of you for her entire life and thinks that everything you do is either ugly, horrible, or a mess. Make sure that the advice you're getting is coming from someone who has gone through the issue or experienced the same/similar problem and has gotten through or overcame it.
Make sure the advice makes sense
Just like everyone that gives advice may not be the best person, the advice they give may not apply to you and your situation. If you're going to someone about relationship advice and they tell you to go on a break from your boyfriend after one argument, that may not be the best advice. How do you tell what's good advice and bad advice?
- Make sure the advice is clear in any steps and actions
- Make sure the advice isn't biased
- Make sure the advice isn't just criticism; there is a difference