How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People


It's so easy to compare yourself to other people especially with social media. And if we're being honest here, there have been times that I find myself browsing through someone's Facebook page or Twitter going through pictures and albums from years ago; pictures of what someone is doing for a living, what they do for fun, etc. After fifteen minutes I would finally put my phone down and start thinking about my life and what I have going on.

I'm telling you this to let you know that we all compare ourselves to other people at times. It's so easy to think that other people are doing better than us and living "life", but today I'm sharing with you 3 things that you can do to stop thinking about other people and start feeling more confident, happy, and satisfied with your life and who you are.

Focus On What You Do Best

I get it; it's hard to figure out what exactly you're good at when it's so easy to point out what's wrong. But really take the time to think about all that you do best, things that you can do in your sleep. Whatever you do best, make it your mission to make it a priority in your life, whether you love writing, painting, teaching, creating, singing, styling hair, etc.; the more you do it, the more you take your focus off what you don't know how to do and what other people seem to do better. 

Your talents and skills are what make you, you, but when you stop focusing on that you start to focus on other people, what they do and how they do it. What's worse is that you start questioning yourself: Am I really good at this? Do I want to keep doing this? Why do I continue doing this when other people are better than me? But the more you focus on what you know how to do and do well, you actually eliminate the self-doubt and build up your confidence.

Start Celebrating Yourself More

There is nothing wrong with celebrating who you are. A pat on the back doesn't do much to your confidence, so you need to be intentional about yourself. Practice more self-care habits like a skin care routine, creating a morning routine of things that you actually like to do and that keeps you grounded. Actions become habits and the more you act on positive things the more it becomes habitual to you.

But don't just celebrate some things, celebrate every little thing about you: wear your favorite color, favorite jeans, watch your favorite movie, eat your favorite foods, etc. Whatever makes you happy do more of it.

Know That Perfection Isn't Real

For some reason when we strive to be the best version of ourselves and finally "feel" ready to share that with the everyone else, it doesn't even matter anymore. Nobody wants to hear how perfect your life is, what you do that is so perfect or how you seem to be perfect. Perfection doesn't exists. As much as we think we can, we can't strive for something that isn't real. People gravitate to you more when you actually show your imperfections. I don't want to associate myself with a Barbie because she doesn't represent me, but I will associate myself with a black woman or simply a millennial women, working a 9-5, who is trying to build a family while also pursuing her personal life goals, but has to balance all of what she does. This is my real life experience and that makes me just like you, the everyday woman.

Natasha KeeleComment