How To Tell Your Story & Embrace It
Lately, I've been talking about telling your story. One of the things that I do here on BN (Becoming Natasha) is to help millennial women find their voice aka share their story. We all have a story to tell and may never know who we are inspiring with it.
But, a lot of times we focus on telling just one part of our story or share the good of what we do, to come across as "perfect" or someone who has their life together.
There is no point in hiding who you really are and what you've experienced in life. Your testament, your breakthrough may be what someone needs to set them free or move them forward in life.
My story is simple: Since I was young, I was always looking for alternative ways to do things in life. I was never the person that believed there was one way to do anything. Even when it came to figuring out what I wanted to do in life, I was focused on how I could mix all of my interests together, but my parents thought otherwise. It came down to the fact, can my passion or interests keep food on the table, a roof over my head, etc? Of course, at 16, I wasn't thinking about paying actual bills, but I knew for sure that I didn't want a "traditional" job.
From that point on I kept quiet about my goals since it only brought up more criticism from everyone around me. I stopped discussing my future plans and avoided conversations about what I wanted to do in life. Keeping silent was my way of dealing with things, but it also made me frustrated inside. I was mad at everyone for not understanding me and wanted them to accept what I wanted, but I had to realize that not everyone would understand, and that's okay.
Your story may be heard, but not always understood, and that's okay. Not everyone will understand why you choose to take certain paths in life, just as long as you know why. And for that reason you shouldn't keep quiet about your story.
Where you've come from, where you are now, and where you want to be is a testimony in progress and you need to embrace it for many reasons:
They say, where you were 2 years is typically where other people are in their lives right now. As a blogger, helping millennial women find their voice, discover their purpose, and create the life they want, I understand that I'm helping women who are in my shoes and where I was just 2-3 years ago. What this means is that I'm helping them overcome any challenges that I was facing at one point in my life.
Even if you don't have a blog or you don't even have an online presence, telling your story irl (in real life) is important. When people see that you've made some type of transformation they want to know how you've transformed. We all want to experience growth and achievement in our lives. People genuinely want to know how to go from failure to success, how to stop feeling stuck to start feeling and being motivated; to stop moving backward in life and start moving forward.
If you happened to overcome a challenging experience in your life you can other people going through the same issue. Let them know what you did to get through it. Be as transparent as you want to and need to be with other people. This is how you create an influence, a following of people who find you authentic, honest, and truthful. Be open and honest about your past, embrace it for what it is and use it as a way to connect with people on a personal level.
Just remember that what you are going through now may be a testimony that someone needs to hear. Back in 2014, I was struggling to find my voice, struggling to stand on my own two feet and stand up for what I wanted in life. Now that I look back 3 years ago, I realized that I went through that experience to be here today to share my story with you. You may be someone that is struggling with finding your voice, struggling to stand up for the life you want to live, and it's hard, but trust and believe me you can get through it.
Our breakthroughs are not only for us, but for those experiencing the same thing
Everything you go through is a lesson learned. Lessons are learned and eventually turned into habits. Use your story to teach lessons. When you use your story to teach a lesson, you're using your voice to help people. When you show the lessons you've learned in life you are embracing imperfection, shortcomings, and failure.
Most people want to cover up their real truths; they want to hide imperfection to seem "perfect", but perfection doesn't exist. We as humans fail every day, so it makes no sense to keep striving for something that isn't real. Lessons are learned in mistakes, failures, and shortcomings, but when you cover that truth you're stopping the lesson from being learned. What this means is that you are developing bad habits, habits that will keep you stagnant in life and not move forward.
Embracing your shortcomings and failure exudes confidence
I had to come to the hard realization that I am a work in progress, hence why I titled this blog as "becoming" Natasha. I am not where I want to be and even when I eventually get there, I am sure there will be new heights that I want to reach.
I say this to tell you that you are continuously working on yourself and you will never reach "perfection", but you will reach a certain point in your life where you feel complete and whole. That time may not be here just yet; it may be 5 years from now or 15, but regardless of when your breakthrough is coming, in the meantime, continue sharing your story. Share the good and the bad (just enough to show that life isn't perfect). Be honest about your mistakes and when people ask, genuinely let them know what lesson you've learned.