What To Do When You Don't Get The Support You Need
One thing that I've come to realize is that support can be a of lot things and can come from whomever. Support isn't simply having someone say "yes" to all your ideas nor does it mean having someone constantly supply you with the finances you need.
Support can be emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, etc. And you have to figure out what type of support you need the most at different times throughout your life.
Going after your dreams gets lonely and almost make you feel that you have nobody to turn to for help.
I get it because I too feel the same way, but if you're someone feeling that you're not getting any help/support to do what you want, here's what you need to know:
1. Let People In on What It Is That You Do
You can't expect people to support you if you don't let them know what to support you in. If you're starting a business or you blog or whatever, you have to let people know what it is that you are doing. You can't be secretive about it and expect people to respect you, respect what you're doing, and support you either financially or emotionally.
When I first started NYKseries, my first blog, I was writing every hour, every minute, but what I wasn't telling people about my blog. Each time I shared a blog post on Facebook, every time I talked to my family and friends about it, I wasn't giving them much information other than the fact that I blog. This is the reason why I wasn't getting the support that I really wanted.
So how do you tell people about what you're doing?
- Don't be afraid to open up and share what you do - close mouths don't get fed & secretive people don't get support when they need to
- Show your progress or lay it out what it is you're trying to do and how they can help you get there
- Simply ask for help when you need it
2. Serious & Committed People Get The Support They Really Need
One thing for sure people will only support you if you are serious and committed to what they are doing. I've been blogging for 2 years and within those 2 years I've had 2 blogs, a YouTube channel, a podcast series, ebooks/downloads, a giveaway, been invited to speak on a panel, and more. I have receipts showing that I'm serious and committed to what I'm doing, which is why I have family/friends letting other people know what it is that I do. That's support!
You have to be committed and serious about the result you are looking if you really want people to get on board with what you are doing.
Consistency and commitment equates to being intentional about what you are trying to do. When you're intentional you're serious and when you're serious people support you. They know to not to play around with you and your goals, and they will take your goals serious as well.
How to get serious and committed?
- Remember that progress starts with the first step
- Be consistent in what you do. Starting and stopping will cause people to be unsure as to how to support you and when to support you.
- Make a list of all that you need to do to accomplish the goal; break it down it actionable steps and actually take the steps
3. Understand That Everyone Doesn't Need To Be On Your Team
I wrote a post on the blog about the 4 people you need in your circle, and only 4 people. This means that you don't need everybody in your corner. Majority of the time having a lot of people in your corner means a lot of opinions and criticism that isn't always constructive. With just 3-4 people in your corner you have more than enough people to support you financially and emotionally when you need it most.