Why Becoming Is Better Than Being
Remember what you wanted to be when you were younger? Is that what you do for a living today? You more than likely do not. I wanted to be a lawyer when I was younger, but I found out that's not what I wanted to do for a living. First, I wanted to teach people rather than defend them. Second, I didn't care to look at case after case after case. Third, I knew I wanted to leave a bigger & deeper mark in this world.
The same may have gone for you. As we get older our interest are going to change and that's okay. When you almost force yourself to stay with one goal or one interest you're limiting your abilities and full potential. Life is too short to limit yourself.
When it comes to growing in life it's best to experiment. Try any and everything that you want to do or that interests you. If you like taking pictures, try buying a professional camera and see if you like photography. If you like writing, try writing stories or starting a blog. If you like designing clothes and making things with your hands, try fashion design. Whatever you feel like doing, do it. The worse that can happen is that you don't like it and you can move on to something else.
A lot of people will feel that if by a certain age they don't know what they want to do in life then they'll be stuck at their same boring, tiring job for the rest of their life (that used to be me), making the "little" money that they make, but in reality, they are stopping themselves from growing, experimenting, figuring out who they are and what they want to do.
Whenever people ask me what do I want to be, I tell them, "I want to become a writer, but..." I try not to limit myself to being one thing because I am becoming more than just a writer. When you really look at your life, what you do for a living isn't the only label you have. We are not only employees, but we're also daughters, maybe mothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, spouses/significant others, etc. If you have more than one label in your personal life, why would you only limit your professional life to being one thing?
"You have more than one talent and more than one skill, yet you are only striving to be one thing and only one thing." -
Regardless of what your parents think you should be, your spouse/significant other, or whoever, you have the permission and right to be who you want to become. Just because you're a cashier or manager doesn't mean that's what you will be for the rest of your life. But you believe that today will be your future. It won't.
When you say that you are something you're simply saying that who you are is permanent, but when you say I want to become something you're stating that what you're doing now is getting you prepared for the next step and getting closer to becoming whatever it is you want to become. That can mean a mother, business woman, a wife, etc.
Along with becoming whoever you want to be, include your personal life because your professional life IS your personal life, there isn't a separation. -
When it all comes down to it, becoming is about experimenting, figuring out who you are and what you wan to be. It's continuous. When something is continuous it never stops and that's life. We grow each and every year, month, day, hour, minute and second. And with each given opportunity we need to be experimenting with our interests, figuring out what we like and what we don't like, and we also need to be figuring out who we are. What do you value? Believe? Struggle with? Talented and skilled in?
Figuring this out helps you become the person you are to be and not the person who thought you wanted to be. Remember, I wanted to be a lawyer, yet I run my personal lifestyle blog.