Why You Need To Focus On Building A Relationship With Yourself
So many times we put ourselves last. We care about other people and their feelings before we take the time to think about how we feel. It's not always healthy to put yourself last because at the end of the day your well-being is just as important as anyone else, which is why I'm breaking down why you need to stop and focus on building a relationship with yourself, first, before setting any goals, starting new relationships, etc.
1. You can't help others unless you've helped OR am helping yourself
You don’t need to be your perfect self to help other people, although most people will believe that you should have your life together before you help someone else. Let’s be honest, who has their entire life together to the point where they don’t even need help or advice from someone else; that they have it all figured out? Nobody has life figured out, but everything you experience is a lesson for you to learn and one that you can teach other people.
Furthermore, when you understand that you will fail, make mistakes, fall short, envy, etc, you’re recognizing that you are not perfect. You’re embracing your imperfection and by embracing it, you’re showing confidence. Most people can’t accept the hard truth that they fail. People would rather cover up their failure by pretending that it didn’t happen or move on to something else so people would forget. If you can recognize that you fail at things in life, yet you still keep pushing and striving to reach your goals, you are much more confident than you think. It’s that same confidence that influences other people to do the same in their lives. When you embrace your imperfections you may be helping someone else do the same. Making it okay to not be perfect, to have shortcomings, to fail, to make mistakes, to be human.
2. The most important relationship to have on this planet is one with yourself
Your well-being is the most important to worry about. How you treat yourself is how you will approach the ways of the world and how people will treat/approach you. Even more, your self-care is super important to how you operate in the world. If you don’t take the time to work on your needs you will end up spending so much time doing for others that your body will start to the reflect that. The same amount of energy that you put into relationships should be the same amount you get back, but that doesn’t always happen. That’s why you need to focus on how you’re caring and treating yourself. Find the time to dedicate to yourself. Work on anything about you and for you. There are so many things that can be considered self-care and I shared 13 practices that you can do over the weekend on the blog, here.
3. What you put into this world is what you get out
What you put out into the world is what will come back to you the same way. If you put out hate, you’re going to experience hate in your life. But if you put out things of happiness and contentment than other people may give that same energy. I think we hold onto one aspect of our lives of who we are and run with it. We exaggerate, we make it more than what it is because we essentially want people to “feel” for us; not knowing that what you put out is what comes back to you even more. Think about it! If you’re someone who walks around all the time being miserable with the world, not forgiving people, then nobody will want to be around you. Misery loves company. That’s something toxic & contagious.
Focus on what energy you are putting out into the world and realize that what you put out is what you will get back. If you are putting out negativity, that’s all your world is going to consist of. I get it, at times we can go through some hardships and challenges, but you decide on whether you want to focus on the bad or good of things.